There is a disturbing trend of late, born from good intentions, that same composite substance used to pave the road to hell, whereby we all accept ourselves as perfect, beautiful, and finished. No doubt this is a carryover from the, “Everyone gets a trophy because there are no winners and losers, you are all special and deserving of praise regardless of the effort made”. Self-esteem is paramount. In order to be loved, you must be lovable, so that is our accepted starting point. We are deserving of all of life’s gifts because of who we are, no deficiencies here, if you see one, that’s your problem not mine.
Naturally this is an easy course to navigate, requiring zero self-reflection, zero self-awareness. No effort is needed to improve, to grow, to become that person you were supposed to be all along. We can put a bow on this painting because it is complete with no further strokes needed.
Let’s start from the premise that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, I read that somewhere. Excluding inward beauty, that thing that is eternal and more valuable, external beauty gets more air time, for a number of reasons; we can see the evidence with our own eyes, subjectively speaking of course, and with the new era of acceptance and tolerance (not really new, just more talked about) the very definition has been expanded to irrelevance.
Tess Holliday is a fat model. Now before you rag on me for calling her fat, those are her own words, words that she revels in and makes a ton of bank endorsing. She is a freakin’ genius. She is the new “it” girl, if by it we mean counter to prevailing acceptable norms. Not only is she fat, she promotes fat pride, a new attitude of, “You don’t like what you see? Fuck Off!!”
Tess has written a book on body image, and by the Amazon reviews, well received. She is outspoken and very rich, tapping in to an emotional issue, not of self-help or improvement but of flat-out acceptance, “I am this way because I choose to be this way”. For her I would probably say she is telling the truth because of what she is selling, what she is promoting. For those overweight folks who can’t cash in, loving yourself is great, do that, but don’t stop trying to lose weight or get healthy. The fat acceptance movement aims to normalize obesity, promoting the belief that it’s fine to be fat, it’s not.
Tess just landed the cover of Self, a magazine that specializes in health, wellness, beauty, and style. Some thinks it is ridiculous;
Pointing out the absurdity of this magazine cover doesn’t make me anti-woman. It makes me pro-living and being healthy.
Naturally in her bio she gives us the standard trope that fat folks can also be healthy. But even the studies that say A doesn’t necessarily mean B , they still warn about future problems;
The new research confirmed this. People who are overweight have a fifty-fifty chance of having high cholesterol, high blood pressure, or elevated blood sugar levels. Pretty good odds, but not as good as those for people who are within the normal weight range. They have a 75% chance of having normal results on blood tests for cholesterol and blood sugar. And for those who are obese, the chance of having normal results falls to one-third.
Celebrating obesity is lazy and dangerous, and it’s not just an American problem;
According to the NHS, we’re in the grip of an obesity epidemic, which has led to increased pressure on the struggling health service. The latest figures reveal that weight-related hospital admissions have risen by 18% in the past year, with more than a quarter (26%) of British adults now classified as obese. Another recent study, which measured the metabolic health of more than 17,000 respondents, showed that overweight people who exercise regularly and consider themselves “fat but fit” still had a 28% increased risk of heart disease, compared to their slimmer counterparts. As well as being linked to diabetes, obesity can also be responsible for osteoarthritis, gout, breathing problems, high blood pressure and other conditions. While being thin won’t automatically grant you a clean bill of health or a long, smug life of squeaky clean arteries, there’s no denying that health risks are higher for obese people.
Is sum, what Tess peddles to fine and lucrative for her, but dangerous and deflating for her readers.
I see overweight folks all the time at the gym, I have nothing but admiration for them. They understand the need for some reconstruction. I saw this the other day, so cool;
I like the move by the fashion industry to promote “healthy” women in their ads. Anorexia is not attractive, not healthy, and not something to emulate. Girls with curves rock. Although I think Ashley Graham is attractive, she too could lose a few pounds.
We only get one body in life, we best take care of it. I understand the appeal in what Tess is peddling ,”See, she understands me, she says I’m fine just the way I am, pass the Haagan-Daz”.
Born imperfect, life has always been about the journey. To gain knowledge is to get better, to evolve from what was to something better, a life long pursuit of truth, all these things are consistent with the idea that complacency is an excuse. Ditto with our earthly temple. We can do better, get in better shape, eat better, take better care of ourselves. From the great show Crashing;
“On a sub conscious level I’ve always hated my body”
“You hate your body?”
“Sure, everyone does”
“Everyone hates your body?”